August 27, 2013 at 11:22 pm
earl + Ray,
The issue with her “be 100% confident all the time” expectation is, as you say, it is totally unrealistic, and a woman who screens for that is really screening for men who are sociopathic and don’t have normally functioning emotional systems. If a woman is going to demand that, then a high-value man is certainly justified in demanding she be near perfection herself – hot, well-dressed, in shape and DTF on a regular basis.
But try telling that to someone like DeAnna , and you’ll get a world-class hamsterization about how the guy isn’t entitled to anything.
There’s no point bitching about it though. Logic isn’t going to change her mind or the mind of women like her. The solution is: when you identify a woman like this who wants a fantasy man with no flaws and will drop him if she finds any, you need to become totally self-centered yourself. Your only concern should be what you’re getting from dating her. Because she’s not worried about anything more than what she’s getting from you.
Fortunately, women with unrealistic demands are easy to not take seriously.
Badger
August 27, 2013 at 11:30 pm
Stark,
I have thought many times on exactly your point.
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Fisking The Hamster
Stay On The Road
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earl + Ray,
The issue with her “be 100% confident all the time” expectation is, as you say, it is totally unrealistic, and a woman who screens for that is really screening for men who are sociopathic and don’t have normally functioning emotional systems. If a woman is going to demand that, then a high-value man is certainly justified in demanding she be near perfection herself – hot, well-dressed, in shape and DTF on a regular basis.
But try telling that to someone like DeAnna , and you’ll get a world-class hamsterization about how the guy isn’t entitled to anything.
There’s no point bitching about it though. Logic isn’t going to change her mind or the mind of women like her. The solution is: when you identify a woman like this who wants a fantasy man with no flaws and will drop him if she finds any, you need to become totally self-centered yourself. Your only concern should be what you’re getting from dating her. Because she’s not worried about anything more than what she’s getting from you.
Fortunately, women with unrealistic demands are easy to not take seriously.
Badger
August 27, 2013 at 11:30 pm
Stark,
I have thought many times on exactly your point.
Backleading Is Unattractive
The Boss Lady
Alex Wise Marriage Advice
Micro-Game, Macro-Game
Poker And Dating Game: A Lesson In Fundamentals
Fisking The Hamster
Stay On The Road
Keep The Ship Sailing
Insecure Extrovert Thinks Introverts Have Gotten Enough Attention