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zorach Says:
February 22nd, 2011 at 12:31 pm
While I think these are all good indicators, honestly, do you really need to go to all this trouble? I think some of your points are more reliable indicators than others. But you can skip a lot of this really early on.
Look a man in the eyes and ask him something real about himself. Ask him the first time you talk. Ask him something relevant to these points you make here. Ask him if he likes to be more spontaneous or if he’s a planner. Or ask him to share a story about a date or relationship that he feels genuinely appreciative of and good about.
Let him talk a little bit and pay attention. Is he really sharing himself with you, letting you know how he really feels, how he really operates? If he’s not being honest with you, or if he’s afraid of having a real conversation in which he actually shares at least a small but real part of himself, drop him. It’s not worth even having casual dates with someone who is not being straight up with you and who is not going to really share himself with you.
If he’s being honest, then you will gain more understanding of him. These rules you have given all have a lot of truth to them but their interpretation varies hugely from one person to the next because of individual styles. It’s best to go with the overall trend, rather than following rules. If you follow these rules you may jump to incorrect conclusions. Maybe he visits his family on weekends and family is really important to him, and maybe you’d really connect with his family later, once you get to know him better? Or maybe he’s just a really spontaneous person who doesn’t plan ahead much.
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Dreams About the Person You Love
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Eight Tips for Living Together to Keep You Staying Together
The Elevated Perspective on Dating: Tips for Tall Women
How to Know You Are Not His Girlfriend
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zorach Says:
February 22nd, 2011 at 12:31 pm
While I think these are all good indicators, honestly, do you really need to go to all this trouble? I think some of your points are more reliable indicators than others. But you can skip a lot of this really early on.
Look a man in the eyes and ask him something real about himself. Ask him the first time you talk. Ask him something relevant to these points you make here. Ask him if he likes to be more spontaneous or if he’s a planner. Or ask him to share a story about a date or relationship that he feels genuinely appreciative of and good about.
Let him talk a little bit and pay attention. Is he really sharing himself with you, letting you know how he really feels, how he really operates? If he’s not being honest with you, or if he’s afraid of having a real conversation in which he actually shares at least a small but real part of himself, drop him. It’s not worth even having casual dates with someone who is not being straight up with you and who is not going to really share himself with you.
If he’s being honest, then you will gain more understanding of him. These rules you have given all have a lot of truth to them but their interpretation varies hugely from one person to the next because of individual styles. It’s best to go with the overall trend, rather than following rules. If you follow these rules you may jump to incorrect conclusions. Maybe he visits his family on weekends and family is really important to him, and maybe you’d really connect with his family later, once you get to know him better? Or maybe he’s just a really spontaneous person who doesn’t plan ahead much.